Simple chivalrous gestures


In this day and age of “equality of the sexes”, women’s lib, feminism and political correctness, the polite way to interact with women can be confusing. Women don’t want to be referred to as the “fairer sex” or the “weaker sex” nor do they want to be treated that way.

Afterall, they have fully functioning mental capacities and they deserve respect. The sentiment that women are equal to men should not be interpreted to mean that you have to treat your girl like on of the “boys”. She may be as capable as a man, but she is, in fact, a lady.

In this “new” world, a little old-fashioned chivalry can go a long way to make a girl feel special. Be a gentleman, not a raucous brute. Courteous behaviour can set you apart from the foul-mouthed, hand-grabbing, ass-slapping, “yow baby mi woulda f–k you” type men. In fact, it will make you seem a cut above the rest.

Respond to the weather

If it’s cold and it’s obvious that she‘s cold, offer your jacket or shirt. If it’s raining, hold the umbrella (or newspaper).

Although it seems like a very typical thing to do, it really can make a difference to her view of you. It shows that you’re willing to go out of your way for her comfort and that you’re paying attention to how she’s feeling.It actually says alot about your personality, making you appear valiant and strong (like a knight in shining armour).

Walk on the outside of the sidewalk

When walking  with her, take the side closer to the street. This is a rarely followed form of chivalry, and as such, it might be even more appreciated by a discerning female. It is a nice gesture because it removes her from the dangers of traffic. All in all, it’s a very gentlemanly move. Above that, she’ll feel protected, and that’s a good feeling for any woman.

Pick her up (even if she drives)

Unlike offering to drive a girl home, picking her up doesn’t imply an ulterior motive. She won’t think that you’re trying to get in her house and into her pants. It’s an innocent and should make her feel taken care of without putting her on the defensive. This is just pure chivalry. Additionally, it gives you a little time in private before going out in public. It allows you to set the tone before going out and allows you to walk into the event you’re attending with confidence.

Make sure she gets home safely

You should always offer to walk, drive or cab her home. Leaving her to get home on her own makes you appear uncaring. Your duty as a man is to make sure she’s taken care of. If she’s uncomfortable having you walk or drive her home, put her in a cab and pay the driver. Just don’t let her feel vulnerable.*NOTE: ladies never leave your “get vex money”, just in case you’re out with an asshole.

Get out of your car

If you do drive her home, get out of your car when you get to her house. Open her car door and say your goodbyes there unless she specifically asks you to see her to the door. It‘s too presumptuous to just walk toward it; unless she’s clearly hinted  “something else”. Getting out of the car makes a big deal of the fact that you’re leaving each other for the night. I think it makes her feel important. It also allows for a hug, kiss or other gesture, depending on how well the outing went. *NOTE: always ask her how safe her community is before going out. Chivalry must never lose out to common sense & security

Hold the door

As a general rule, it is polite and gentlemanly to hold the door for anybody who is following you closely, especially the elderly. Showing this kind of respect for her and for strangers definitely shows class.

Introduce her to people

Even if you just run into an acquaintance on the street, introduce her. If you have a little chat with your old buddy while she just stands there, she’ll feel incredibly awkward and out of place. She may even think that you’re embarrassed by her or that you don’t find her important enough to mention. Take a moment to say her name, she’ll feel like part of the conversation even if she doesn’t add anything.

If there’s a particular reason for your not introducing her — for example, you can’t stand the person you ran into and want to escape their company as soon as possible — make sure to apologize and explain the situation to her as soon as they are gone. This is beyond gentlemanly; it’s just good manners.

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Published by Garth O. Williams

A seasoned journalist and communications practitioner; professional MC/moderator, voice-over actor and entrepreneur.

4 thoughts on “Simple chivalrous gestures

  1. You shd definetely submit to all woman or flair. I know a few people who could definetely benefit, like the guys at my office who read these two mags every week and stand up outside my office encouraging each other to do some very “raucous” things


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