Valentine’s Day… but why though?

So here it comes again, that dreaded (or highly anticipated) day of the year, Valentine’s Day. A lot of us as men feel pressured by Valentine’s Day. We don’t like being expected to do something romantic for the wife or girlfriend(s) on an arbitrary date on the calendar. Some of my male friends flinch when

Beauty of the Backshot

Sexual intercourse is certainly one of the best parts of human life. It’s even better when the people involved are open-minded and committed to giving pleasure rather than selfishly focusing on “gettn theirs”. Anyhow, I’m not focusing on sex in general today, I’m talking about the beauty of the Backshot, Backaz, Doggy Style or whichever

What do women want?

Let me start this off with a disclaimer that the views below are simply my opinion and it comes from years of hearing women lament about their intimate/committed relationships mainly with men. I find that my lesbian friends complain a lot less but for reasons that will be shared in a different blog. I concede

Secrets: to keep or not to keep

It is a widely-held belief/assumption that happiness in a marriage/relationship depends a lot on being completely open to one’s spouse through full disclosure. We are taught that clear communication is the best policy. Books like Fifty Shades of Grey strongly suggest that sharing our deepest sexual fantasies will improve intimacy. Others say secrets will ultimately

Joe Grind Notes

This little blog will deal with some ideas for all to consider, but it’s primarily aimed at those men who play the role of “Joseph P. Grind” aka “Joe Grind”. As always, let me publicly declare that I do not endorse cheating/infidelity of any sort. Now onto the meat of the matter; if you’re doing

Matey by choice – women chasing forbidden fruit

Life is filled with duality – good v evil, left wing v right wing and matey v wifey among others; so let’s talk about this wifey v matey matter, focusing on the matey. For the purpose of this blog let’s focus particularly on the mateys who weren’t tricked into the relationship with the man. Instead I want

Sexual A.D.D.

I caught up with an old university friend of mine who lived on campus circa 2002. We started recounting our days of sharing ourselves with the lovely ladies on campus, it brought back many laughable memories but it also made me think. My thoughts led me to coin a phrase which I hoped would have

Bun and the married woman

I watched a programme on CNN recently which noted some research carried out by relationship experts in the United States about rates of infidelity (bun) among married couples. It showed infidelity ranging from 30-60 percent of women compared to 50-70 percent of men. The researchers also noted that the gap is closing. Sadly, I don’t

Self confidence – is it what women want?

The question of what women want has been with us since God (if you’re religiously inclined) created women. I doubt even God could tell us what women want, and no I’m not being blasphemous. Don’t you think he would have revealed it to some ‘holy man’ by now? … Moving on I’ve observed and interacted with

We just had sex, now what?

We just had sex, now what? That’s a question which always pops up the first time you have sex with someone new. Men and women tend to answer this question differently, but since I’m a man this blog shall be testosterone-driven. Now the next thing to consider when answering this question is if it’s a